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I want to start teaching my young child about Paganism; about the God and Goddess, nature, magick, and Sabbats. Do I just tell her? Involve her in rituals and blessings? How slow or fast should I start and how?

“I have been Pagan for many years. My husband is not Pagan, but he accepts that about me. My daughter is three years old and is always asking about the things I say, do, and have – like my altar, statues, books, etc. I really want her to understand it all, not force her to become Pagan, but just to teach her so she knows about “mommy’s weirdness.” Should I just sit down and give her the “Pagan talk”? Or do I kind of just tell her what I’m doing and let her join me in ritual and daily blessings? I don’t want to just jump in and burst my guts out about everything, is there an easy way to do it?

Blessed be,

Dear Shannon,

First off, it’s completely OKAY to talk to your daughter about the things you’re doing. Children learn best by observation, so as long as you’re being somewhat accurate with what you’re doing, whether it be prepping some herbs, your altar, etc., and she knows SOMETHING, you’re already teaching her and she’s already learning. Children are extremely curious and love to learn, so don’t be afraid by holding yourself back and not explain things to her.

Over the years I’ve come across several great books for Pagan children that I’ve bought and kept for when I have my own! Books like the ABC Book of Shadows and An Ordinary Girl – A Magical Child and Growing Up Pagan: A Workbook for Wiccan Families are the books I have in my library. These are excellent books! The first two are mostly for the younger kids and are more suitable for your daughter, for they’re beautifully illustrated, very kid-friendly, and written is a way where they can understand. But all three books are the best I’ve come across. They illustrate history of and what Paganism is, God and Goddess, Sabbats, recipes, short stories, etc.

But it’s not always about the books. You can teach your children in so many different ways – crafts, herbs, songs, history/stories, blessings/chants/ritual, etc. Go outside one night and moon-gaze. Explain to her what the moon represents and about the Goddess. Explain the different phases of the moon and what they mean. You can also talk about the God (Sun), since you can’t exactly gaze at the sun. Explain their relationship, their meanings, and significance in Paganism.

Go outside, to a park, or a garden. If you’re familiar with herbs and flowers, pick some. Explain some of their properties; medicinal and magical. You can use this new knowledge of hers to quiz her later. You can then use the herbs and flowers that you picked to make a sachet (magick bag, mojo bag), or whatever crafty thing you want to do.

Use stories of Gods and Goddesses or about the Sabbats as bedtime stories. Or songs and chants before bed. One of the chants I use when when I can’t fall asleep is the Goddess chant: “Isis, Astarte, Diana, Hekate, Demeter, Kali, Inanna.

You can also say a Pagan grace before meals (if I remember correctly, this chant was in one of Cunningham’s books):

Darksome and Divine,
Bless my food,
Bless my wine.
Give me health,
wealth and wisdom,
the divine three.
And as I will,
so mote it be!”

Another favorite bedtime chant is: “Lady of the Moon, Lord of the Sun. Protect me and mine, now day is done.”

These are obviously not just for children, because I use them! But they are beautiful, simple, and easy to chant and understand for children.

Other ways to help implement ritual work, without engaging in actual ritual is meditation and visualization. Not every kid will understand meditation, but letting them know why we meditate and how it helps us, will help them as well. You don’t have to go in-depth and super serious about the meditation process, but just be simple with it – close your eyes, don’t think about anything, see a big ball of white light that’s keeping you warm and safe from evil, negativity and harm.

Crafts is always a great way to teach, tell, and just have fun! Gather sticks/twigs from outside, make a pentagram with them, or whatever symbol you can manage to do. Or gather herbs and flowers to make a dolly and tell them it’s a dolly that will always be there to protect them and watch over them; a mini-version of the Goddess. Or use all these things (sticks/twigs, herbs and flowers) to make a crown. Children love crowns, and this is a fun little craft idea that they’ll love.

There are so many ways to teach your children about Paganism. I, or any book, can’t tell you how to do it, when to do it, and how much and how fast you give them information. It’s really up to you and how comfortable you and your children are about it. If they truly seem interested and ask questions, then by all means, give them the answers! But NEVER force anything on them. That’s the worse way to do anything! They’ll never learn that way and they’ll just hate it without even really understanding it.

Just remember not to bombard them with so much information at once. Just bits and pieces, little at a time. Go as fast or as slow as their curiosity seeks. That’s the best way to teach them.

These are just some of my ideas. I’m sure if you pick up one of the books I’ve mentioned, you’ll get more ideas and “lessons” on what to do. I hope I have helped guide you in the right direction!

Blessed Be,


3 responses to “I want to start teaching my young child about Paganism; about the God and Goddess, nature, magick, and Sabbats. Do I just tell her? Involve her in rituals and blessings? How slow or fast should I start and how?

  1. RevMorgan ⋅

    Kid’s Course in Paganism
    13 Lessons by Lorien

    1. Introduction
    A. Reality as Perception
    B. Awareness of Interrelatedness
    C. Karma Simplified
    D. Nature Attunement
    E. Developing Control of the Mind

    These things should be explained briefly as the basis of much of what will be taught. Use these abstract concepts. Humor is encouraged. Mention of the Celts, Egyptians, Hebrews, Alchemists, Gypsies, Greeks, and Native Americans as sources (so they don’t think you are making this stuff up).

    F. The Unconscious
    G. Awareness, Will, Intent
    H. Gods and Goddesses
    I. Planes of Manifestation- (As above, so below; as within, so without)
    J. The Big Four (Elements and their Correspondences)
    K. Balancing the Whole Person

    I actually did this lesson in two parts since it covers a lot of territory. It is important both to tailor your presentation to the age of the children you are working with, and to not underestimate a child’s ability to take in these concepts. Don’t get carried away with intellectualizations. Keep it relevant! After each lesson, sit in silence for a while, letting it all come to rest.

    2. The Planets and their Correspondences

    For this one and the lesson about the Four Elements, let the child try to sense what the correspondences are: the colors, gems, animals, and qualities. Make it make sense; don’t just list things as if it were all arbitrary. Leave out the complicated stuff and Quaballistic names.

    3. Using Ceremony
    A. Ritual Baths
    B. Using Oils for Anointing
    C. Circle Casting
    D. Magickal Tools
    E. The Law

    This lesson is very exciting, and can be very powerful too.

    4. Cycles
    A. Moon
    B. Sun
    C. Seasonal Celebrations
    D. Menstrual Cycles

    5. The Chakras and Meditation

    Do some hands on work with this one, and some visualizations. Kay Gardner and Steve Halpern are excellent aids.

    6. Words of Power, Chants, Affirmations

    This is another juicy one. Kids have an instinctive understanding of the power of words, and a natural knack for chanting (they can go on for hours on end).

    7. Rituals
    A. Blessing Way
    B. Self-Blessing
    C. Drawing Down the Moon
    D. Cone of Power
    E. Sweat Lodge
    F. Pipe Ceremony
    G. Seed and Garden Blessings
    H. Conjuring of the Guardian
    I. Vision Quest

    We don’t DO all these in this lesson, but we might do one of them, and talk about the others. These are all appropriate for children, though some parents should wait until the child is a teen. I avoid rituals that involve spell-working or any faintly manipulative intentions. Kids (and all of us probably) need rituals that honor passage, that celebrate the cycles, and that encourage growth, respect, and joy.

    8. Tarot
    9. Divination, Trance work, Visualization
    A. Runes, crystals, and mirrors
    B. Guided Visualization

    10. Gems, and Stones

    This is a good time to pick through all your goodies, to make a pouch, create jewelry etc.

    11. Feathers, Amulets

    Another fun lesson. This is a good chance to practice channeling energy into amulets, to review correspondences, to make someone a gift.

    12. Trees, Herb craft

    Go outside, find a tree and listen to it, make a dream pillow or a restful sleep potion.

    13. Familiars, Power Animals

    Skip the werewolf story. Find out what animal, what bird, what fish your child would be if… Do some trance work, talk about identity, talk about connections.

    Lesson topics for older teens, or kids with a lot of experience, good guidance, and enough wisdom might include

    Healing techniques
    Thought forms
    Astral and Dream work
    Elementals, Entities, and Others
    Deep trance work
    Sex Magick

  2. Hey there,

    You might enjoy my book “Nods to the Old Gods”. It is collected poetry with magical and pagan references. There’s also a glossary at the end so you can talk about the poems and their real meaning. A poem a day, perhaps? 🙂
    I’ve also just published a thesis, “Erotic Magic of the Ancients” (something for later on, when they are a bit older…although it’s not as dirty as it sounds! LOL).
    Hope you get some use out of them. They are both available on Amazon, where you can read sneak previews. Just search my name. Or visit my website to read extracts.

    Best wishes,


  3. Hi!
    You might also enjoy my book, “The Wheel of the Year”.
    It’s a picture book for all ages filled with poetry and images for each Sabbat.
    I think teaching children about Paganism is like teaching children about anything else. Include them whenever you can, have great family conversations, use lots of great books and movies, get involved in a network of other like-minded parents and live by example.

    You can purchase my book on (use the link below).

    Bright Blessings!

    –Aurora Lightbringer

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